Exercise was a big part of my life when I met Jessie. I heard from his roommates that it was not a big part of Jessie's life. Still, he wanted to hang out with me, I guess, because he agreed to come to the gym with me and my Mom. So, he met my Mom within the first two days.
Very early on, he also met the rest of my family when I invited Jessie to where I lived in my parents' house. He had a friend drive him because there was something wrong with his truck.
I saw that Jessie was shy at that point. I thought it was sorta weird because he hadn't seemed shy at all to me. He really didn't speak at all. He answered questions that were directed at him, but he didn't volunteer any information. I now understand why he does this, but back then I saw it simply as a manifestation of the shyness he'd told me about, but I hadn't experienced when it was just the two of us.
Perhaps it was the second visit to my parents' house when I decided that he was either going to sink or swim among my folks. My family is pretty important to me. And we tend to be a bit loud and fun and direct and can sometimes overwhelm others. So, I left Jessie in the livingroom with some of my family to go do something that I didn't need to do because I wanted to see if he could deal with my family without me.
He didn't real deal with them much. He continued to only answer questions directed at him, but he also didn't entirely sink, as it were, either. I'm pretty sure it was after that visit that my Mom said a few things to Jessie. My Mom was shy when she was young. She told Jessie, "I like shy people! No, I really do! The world needs Toris. It does. But the world needs why people, too. Who would pay attention to Tori if there were no shy people?" hehehe
I'm pretty sure some who haven't known me very long may find that an odd thing to say. You just haven't known me long. I used to be very different than I am now. Very very different.
Jessie really liked what my Mom said to him. He told me, "I really like your Mom." I wasn't surprised. My Mom is really likeable.